Passive Aggressive Snots

You just described my life. And he's only 12. How many more years did you say I have left?

Never mind, it's too many, I'll never make it.

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3) delaying whatever it was that he needed to do by the amount of time it takes you to get off your arse and find whatever it is.

You forgot the time wasted yelling at them for wasting your time. They have to LOVE that.

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Hubby spends all of his spare time being freaked out about how good his 5-year-old son is at playing the p/a game.

To which I say, "He has been watching you, hon, and learning."

Right now with hubby we're playing the laundry game. If it isn't in the basket it doesn't get washed. I don't care if you needed that shirt for a meeting and I KNEW it was over there in the floor. Shoulda put it in the basket. And inside-out socks? These (if they make it to the basket) get washed, dried, and put away INSIDE OUT.

It's kind of fun, when you get the hang of it. I figure if I can train the father, the son will be much easier.

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Duct tape!! Okay, now that's just freakin' awesome!

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oh sweet jesus that was FUNNY.

and yeah, turn off the *&$@ cell.

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That's my 4yr old. I'm screwed.

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I can so relate. And it's just infuriating!

Today Mr. M went off to camp with two bottles of sunscreen — one empty (not sure why his dad packed it) and one chock full. He comes home, hours later, red as a beet. What the hell? I ask. Why didn't you put on your sunscreen? Him: the bottle was empty. Me: Is there not a 2nd bottle in your knapsack brand new/ Him: Umm, yeah. I forgot about it.

GRRRRRRRRRRR.

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OH LORDY. And I thought Two and Five were testing…

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So I gather you'd say I'm pretty much S.O.L. since my 4 yr olds are already doing this. And I"m on auto pilot most of the time that I don't even realize that I'm just enabling them. Like tonight, when I was in the middle of reading the newspaper, they asked for some more ranch dressing with their zucchini and like an idiot I got up and got it for them….they are perfectly capable of getting the bottle by themselves and pouring it. They have me so wrapped around their fingers already….must break the habit NOW, right? I can only imagine what life will be like with them when they're teens.

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such an awesome post. you need to write a book because i need to buy it.

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Oh wow. Thank you for the leaving the house idea. My 18 year old got hung up filling out job applications (after 5 hours) because he was waiting on ME to look up two addresses for him. I don't know why we as mothers let ourselves be sucked in. When I relayed my frustration to the father person, he quickly pointed out that the boy knows how to use a phone. Why didn't I think of that?!?

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Even though I thought we were doing pretty well with this teen biz, I think that at 16, I am just beginning to see the shadow of things to come. This post is so spot on, it scares me. Everything is a no-win situation.. and cutting off at the pass is the best hope. My recent favorite answers to pretty much anything: "Wrack your own brain" or "Go google it"

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in case you didn't know, I'm not 16 – my older daughter is!

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This is frightening.

Perhaps my husband just never grew up, because he is just like this. Only it would have taken him a year to figure out the duct tape.

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Seriously, do you type this stuff to scare us mothers of up and coming teenagers? I mean, yes, I have 6 years before I have to worry, but still. I just keep telling myself that the brain is not fully developed yet, so the necessary connections are not there for reasoning, right? Right?

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My favorite method is this: Mom, have you seen my blue shorts? Me: In the laundry room on the shelf maybe. Her: I looked there already, it's not there. Me: If I get up, go in there and find your blue shorts I get to beat you, right? Her: whatever. 5 minutes later, mother beats teenager about the head with her blue shorts and tries to stuff them in teens open and screaming mouth.
No moral to this story, just letting off a little steam.

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You remind me that I have to remain diligent. I think I'll make sure I don't even have a cell phone when my kids are older (or that I don't give them the number). My kids clean their own rooms, make their own breakfast, pack their own lunches for school, dress themselves, and take care of their own needs for the most part.

I've had several moms comment on my "unique" parenting style lately, concerned that I let my kids play on the swingset in the back yard without standing over them (or pushing them on the swings, etc.)… concerned that I actually make them go to bed at a certain time, give them only one choice of what to eat for dinner, etc. I'm not raising kids, though. I'm raising adults… and I want them to get there (to adulthood) some day.

I like your style.

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nice post. thanks.

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Parents are supposed to support and help their children. NOT make them feel stupid. You are all disgusting parents and should never have been allowed to procreate.

All I see are a bunch of children who learned passive aggressive behavior from people who refuse to show compassion and caring to those who depend on them for development.

These people are a mirror image of yourselves. You should be ashamed.

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