Oh! The Drama!

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Ask just about any mother for the moment when she knew her young child was a drama queen (male or female, totally irrelevant), and the answer will always be the same.

The day the kid realized that he could dress himself. Or the day you made the masochistic decision that it was time for the kid to dress himself.

And the hysteria mounts. Lights! Audience? Action!

This is the day when the mother permanently loses control of her life. She can no longer make plans that involve specific times. She can pull fists of hair out of her head, but it doesn’t help. The kid can and will dress himself.

No matter how long it takes.

And of course, we WANT to enforce that self-assertiveness. That responsibility. That go-getter instinct.

Just, really, not on our time.

My friend Amy Anne over at Parenting with Duct Tape tells me that for girls, it’s more about WHAT they are going to wear (“like the melt downs about clothes every.single.morning.since.she.was.6″). For boys, it’s more about finding something, ANYTHING to wear and getting it on. Of course, it would help if their rooms weren’t massive, clothes-gathering black holes, and they actually KNEW where their shoes were.

Planning ahead is worthless. “We are leaving at exactly this time. Shoes or no shoes. FIND THEM NOW.”

Five seconds before time to leave, kid starts looking for shoes.

Yelling, I have discovered, doesn’t help. Screaming doesn’t either. Even presenting said little person with his missing shoes engenders yet another display of theatrical prowess, because you’ve stepped on his little ego.

There is only one solution to the everyday audition for the academy awards.

Let him do it naked.

Throw the kid AND his clothes in the car. Yep. Buck naked. Strap him into his seat.

Anything he can manage to get on on the way to school is a plus. Otherwise, he gets out LIKE THAT.

There will be hysteria.

But it will never happen again.

The Engineer is 21. He STILL remembers the day I took him to school naked. He did manage to get on pants and a shirt on the twenty minute drive.

The legend lives on. The mere mention of the day I took the Engineer to school naked sent shivers down my children’s spines. And then, in the post-convulsive twilight, they found their shoes.

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I love it! Do you have a solution for the 4 year-old who races into the house after every, single trip and has all of her clothes off before I have a chance to hang our coats? (Telling me to suck it up doesn’t count.)

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themother Replies:

Have you tried duct tape?

OMG, if my kids ever find this blog they will hate you forever. I’m usually pretty good on my own, but you are bringing it to a whole new level!

My kids know that if their grades aren’t good enough or I don’t think they are paying attention in class, that I WILL go to school with them. lol Haven’t had to, just the threat and the fact that I know all their friends is enough to scare the crud out of them.

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themother Replies:

I do try. Stay tuned. Your kids can put CPS on their speed dials, too.

I had a similar problem. It was the “waking up and getting out of bed” problem. So one morning we just piled into the car with empty stomachs, in our PJs, and drove to school. The change of clothes in the backseat magically made their way onto Mr. M. Problem solved . . . for the most part, anyway.

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themother Replies:

The waking up and getting out of bed problem gets worse with teenagers. Start collecting ammunition now.

Genius.
I’m filing this gem for later use with my daughter. She is not the typical girl hysterical over what to wear. It’s the getting the clothes on part that makes my head explode.

Momisodes’s last blog post..My apologies to Mother Abbess. I cannot climb ev’ry mountain.

I don’t know what it is that takes my 13-next-week daughter so long to do. She gets dressed, comes out to eat breakfast, then disappears into the black hole she calls a room (which currently hosts zero toys) until I threaten to drive off without her. Fortunately, she believes me. For now. I may have to follow through on my threat one day, which I’m totally willing to do. The biggest problem is the two absorbing her every move.

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themother Replies:

Why is it that troublesome teens are the role models for our impressionable tweens? SO not fair.

The other day I drove to pick up Dolly from school in a drumming downpour. With lightning cracking and thunder bellowing, little kids dawdled to cars and took their time buckling in. Dolly came tearing up to our car, which was still about 20 cars back in the line. She had given up on those slow kids, scared of the storm, and ran through the rain to the safety of our car.

Hubby was on the phone at the time and I complained about the extreme length of time it was taking to get all these kids sorted out under the circumstances, and he cracked me up.

“It’s because no one has ever taught Suzie Entitled Princes or Joey Slow Poke to get an F-N MOVE ON. No one has ever made these kids hurry in all their lives. Why should they move it so that someone else can get out of the storm?”

I applaud you for making your kids get a move on. Taking your kid to school naked makes our society a better place.

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I guess I should count my blessings so far…

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Will have to wait until the weather warms up to do this one. I don’t want to be stuck with a sick drama queen too. This is definitely a secret weapon to keep in my tool box. Thanks so much for sharing this story!

themother Replies:

Kids don’t really catch colds from being cold, you know. Besides, if their little tushies are freezing, as well, it might have even more impact.

This reminds me of the time I took my then 3 y/o (now 12) to preschool in his pajamas. He had to change into his clothes at school. We never had that problem again.

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themother Replies:

See? It works.

Great minds think alike.

Hi-freaking-larious!

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You are officially my parenting idol. Pure genius.

On the heels of that I am almost ashamed to admit how much time my fourteen year old spends getting ready in the morning. She blames digestive issues, but I know how much time she spends applying her black eyeliner, flat ironing her hair, moisturizing, etc. She doesn’t get it from me, I can be out the door in five minutes on any given day. She must get the drama queen genes from her dad. I’m pretty sure my two year old son is on the same path, except reversed, he spends all day trying to get naked.

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You are my hero. Supernanny has nothin’ on you. i would invite you to my house to whip my kids in to shape but I couldn’t afford to pay you what you’re worth for doing so. :)

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I LOOOOVE the idea of taking my kids to school naked. Even at 3 1/2 we have constant battles over what my girls will wear to school. Or what we will have for dinner. Or what book to read at bedtime. Or… well, you get the picture. With four girls I know the teen years are going to be FILLED with drama.

I absolutely love this. Putting them in the car naked… That totally sounds like something I would do – If i’d thought of it.

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My 3 year old loves to dress himself but usually ends up in blue checked pants and an orange striped shirt. And no underwear or socks. Since he loves to be naked that wouldn’t work…he’s always been a challenge.

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You must have stopped by my house this morning or any morning for that matter. I love the idea of sending them naked to school and we are doing just that tomorrow. The drive to school is only about 1 1/2 minutes since we usually walk but it is supposed to be cold tomorrow morning, actually I like the idea of her walking to school naked. She might not mind since I found her naked in the backyard this weekend…

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I have no idea why this system is linking me to some random stranger’s blog when I leave a comment. . I would never write about dancing with the stars. I am now perturbed.

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themother Replies:

I think it’s safe to say that CommentLuv is not an exact science. I’ve had lots of weird things happen on other blogs. But I still think it’s a nice idea.

So, not a Dancing w/ Stars fan, eh?

Fabulous! I only wish I could do this to my 14 year old, but she’s bigger than me.

A friend gave me this advice on having a girl:

If you ever want to be on time once they reach their 10th birthday, remove all mirrors from your home.

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If it so isn’t the truth !!

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This is the best solution to the wardrobe drama I have ever heard. I never took my kids to school naked, but there were a couple of memorable underwear moments they still talk about. Heh.

:)

I actually have threatened to make my oldest go to school naked with unbrushed hair and teeth. However, I haven’t actually thrown her in the car like that. Now that I know that it is in the Mother’s Handbook, I just might do it.

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