Whose Bright Idea Was It to Let Husbands in the Delivery Room?

This was a great read. Yeah, whose idea was that anyway? I think people that have vaginas and should deliver babies, and only vaginas should be allowed in the delivery room!

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You are so right. I don’t really have a story since I delivered by C under general. When husband asked if he could be in there, the doctor and I both said NO simultaneously.

We certainly would be extinct if men were the child-bearers. Unless they turned it into some kind of macho thing. This reminds me of Gloria Steinem’s piece, “If Men Could Menstruate.”

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I agree with you, but to be honest, I didn’t give a flying fig who was in the room when it all went down. I think I was in so much pain that the Drs, nurses, queasy student nurses and my mom, aunt, SIL or husband didn’t even exist.

However, my husband stayed behind me and relatively quiet, good man.

Once I was watching the discovery channel and some woman who was into home-birthing was videotaping the birth of her first child. She was completely naked on her bed (okay… whatever you want…) with her midwife, husband, mother, mother-in-law, sister (getting crowded, but whatever…), FATHER, FATHER-IN-LAW, BROTHER-IN LAW… (what the hell???) A cousin of my husband had her father & father in law in the room too.

Who does that???

Good Lord.

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My husband was there for the delivery of all four of our kids, but you’re absolutely right, except for maybe holding one of my feet while I was bursting blood vessels in my eye balls trying to push these suckers out. Or with our last one, I was in labor for more than 24 hours without a single bite to eat. I had to watch him eat McDonald’s and sip his milk shake so he could keep his strength up.

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I hated childbirth all I wanted was the babies…and I didn’t care who was there just work fast and get it over with.

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Okay, how about the husband who “helpfully” stares at the fetal monitor printout and says, “Honey, you’re having another contraction.”

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After years as a L&D nurse I can attest that it’s rare that the man is truly helpful. Doulas definitely are a smart way to go.

Having birthed 6 children I can assure you my husband was rarely helpful. He took naps and never missed a meal (some things never change). I think I’ve already regaled you with the story of how I had to clean the afterbirth mess out of my minivan when my 4th child was born on the way to the hospital.

To top it all off, after my 6th baby was born by C/section, I came home 2 days post partum.
My husband pretty much tried to starve me to death because he was on conference calls. When I hobbled downstairs to make myself some food he yelled at me for leaving my bedroom and not being patient.
If I had know I was having surgery I would have hired someone to come take care of me!

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Actually I didn’t care who was there. All I remember was I was in pain and wanted it to get done soon. I delivered two babies without my husband on my side. I knew he could be if he wanted to. The hospital where I gave birth allows it anyway. But my doc didn’t suggest it and that was fine with me.

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Until now, I can’t decide whether it is beneficial to have fathers in the delivery room. My hubby was not with me during my two deliveries and everything went well in both instances. I don’t have an idea what it would be like to have him around while I huff and puff and push to let his child out.

One thing I know, though, women are still a lot tougher in that department than men. I’ve heard a lot of fainting fathers in the DR.

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I gave my husband a list of responsibilities to make sure I had the birth I wanted. Such as, give me gatorade every 10 mins…..remind me to relax my face….make sure my music is going, use the shower spray nozzle on my back and belly for as long as I want, etc. I think it was good for him to be right there. That being said, I think women should have a doula to be there for the mom and dad. Before our 1st birth my husband said he wished it was like the olden days when men stayed out. Oh, one other thing–he thought he was a good photographer but he really wasn’t that great!

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My husband was extremely helpful. If you consider taking pictures of me when I least want them taken helpful anyway.

I had him trained by the second one though, he was much better behaved that time.

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My kids were born in 1983 & 1987 when birthing classes were becoming the rage. I never attended not one, and neither did DH. With DD26, I was out like a light, as she was posterior, and I had backache labor like no getout. He wasn’t in the delivery room, but was waiting outside the door.

With DD22, it was too late for an epidural & the nurse said “I’ll teach you to breath.” No thanks, not at this point in time. DH was outside the door waiting again.

Neither of his felt any loss for him not being in the delivery room. We’ve been married 35 years.

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I wanted to have my hubby beside me while I was giving birth but the hospital where I was admitted didn’t allow that. I’m just grateful that the nurses there were all very friendly. They helped me through it. I appreciated their kind and encouraging words during labor.

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now that you wrote about this, i realized my husband wasn’t able to do much during labor and delivery except to deliver his usual jokes… made the whole process less painful by paying the epidural… hmmm, now i could survive without him when we have our second baby:-).

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After telling my husband exactly what I wanted during giving birth, you know that I wanted him to be “my spokesperson” (hah), he ate, watched TV, held my hand while I was in pain and asked me the same questions the drs and nurses asked me. After having our daughter, he promptly fell asleep and snored so loud that I couldn’t sleep. He also couldn’t hear me when I wanted something.

He even slept the first night we came home through our baby’s screams (who was right in our room).

He really was kind to me, but had no clue what to do. Now that she’s older it’s much different, thank goodness.

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Best. Post. Ever.

I’m not sure of how valuable husbands are in the delivery room either.

Mine?

He slept through half of my labor, and then ate a pizza in my delivery room after I had nothing but ice chips for nearly 20 hours. Even my L & D nurse said he was one brave man for bringing that into the room.

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Oh Mother, that was a really funny one! My husband literally slept through most of our children’s upbringing. Total workaholic and also a terrific napper.Thank goodness he’s a lover extraordinaire so when I take a notion to holler at the moon he can accommodate me.

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The doctor?

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Oh, this has made me laugh! I am a retired childbirth educator and doula. And I have to say, with few exceptions, men can be such asses while ‘helping’ during labor.

I have four children, the last two born at home. My husband was freaking useless. He was always a nervous wreck, probably more afraid that I would yell at him than anything. lol

He would hone in on one spot , like my forearm, and rub and rub and rub in circles while saying over and over “You ok? You ok? You ok?”.

Jaysus, Mary and Joseph! Get off me you oaf!! lol

I wrote my Master’s thesis on communication during childbirth, which was fascinating to research and found a similar theme.

Bottom line: Queen (above) is so right. Only vaginas should be allowed in. lol Penises should be checked at the door.

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Well, I never actually minded the childbirth thing. But that sex thing was a pain in the ass! lol

One of the biggest disadvantages to having a baby at home was that after you delivered everyone was like, ok that’s over. What’s for dinner?

So I can only imagine what your hubby’s snip was like. Mine was like Camille if he had so much as a splinter. He wouldn’t even consider having his bits altered.

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my hubby was with me both times. im glad he was there. he was quite brave considering i had 2 c sections lol

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With my first child I had a Doula, my husband was in Iraq. I was in labor for 27 hours. The OB started talking about a C-section the moment I arrived at the hospital. My Doula helped me labor through without intervention! She was wonderful!

My second child my husband was there. It was a much shorter labor. He was exited to be involved and was wonderful to me. He is very proud that he was the one to cut the umbilical cord.

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He buried his head in MY PILLOW while I was pushing, his eyes clamped shut, terrified. So very unnecessary.

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ok, so I know this post is old but I wanted to comment anyway.

For my first baby, I was in labor 17 hours before an emergency c-sections. My husband was there through it all (and 2 failed epidurals). And he was amazing!

I never realized that not all husbands were like this until I walked in my sister-in-law’s delivery room and he was sitting in the corner playing a game with his best friend. I will never forget the way she very calmly whispered to me,”Get that idiot out of the corner so that I can kill him.” heh.

Just wanted to share

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