Mothers of Perfect Children (MoPCs)

How true/funny. I’m certainly not one of those Moms with those kids.

Nell

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I get you about the perfect parent stuff. However, I caution your perspective that Mothers of One Child are the problem. I am a Mother of an Only, and we get our fair share of alienation. When I was having difficulty with my daughter, I heard often, “Well, you only have one! Think about how hard it would be if you had more, like me!” Not the kind of support i was looking for. I believe I am plenty sensitive of those with more than one child and I appreciate people who are sensitive that even one child is challenging.

I think that this is a personal attitude and not a function of the number of kids one has. Perfect Mothers are trying to be perfect everywhere in their lives. Too bad for the kids who will never live up to their standards.

Last thing is that I am a perfectionist at heart, although I try to temper it because it is a huge pain in the ass. However, I like to put my all into projects and sometimes that is my child’s birthday party or something like that. I have a friend who made comments about this desire to do things well, comparing that to the Perfect Mommy syndrome. i think we are sometimes too quick to label others without understanding their motivation. I don’t care if someone has a bday party that is just pizza and playing in a toy room for 1.5 hrs. If my kid has fun, excellent.

Guess the main difference is that I do what I want without expecting others to do like me. A Perfect Mommy thinks she has the only right answer.

Phew! Didn’t know I had all that in there!

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lol, i kept thinking about my MoPC neighbor while reading this post.

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Or, you could say, to an especially gloating MOPC, “Have you read the Stepford Wives? You remind me of one of the characters. Hmm, which one was it now, I can’t remember . . .”

But I think your IQ diatribe is perfect.

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Except for here where apparently all the women who forgot they wanted to have kids and then remembered when their clock started ticking so loud they couldn’t hear anything else have come to live and raise their perfect children. And try to dress like Posh Spice. At 50.

Last year I almost threw up when I went to a tea party at my kid’s 3rd grade class only to find it full of botox, severe bobs, big rhinestone belt buckles and of course – perfect fucking children.

Except mine because I am the only one rooting for a mediocre, average kid who can enjoy her life without any pressure that those perfect children must have. Ha.

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ha ha ha …. (phew!) MOPCs are everywhere! And yes they tend to have one, sometimes two, but I guarantee you those women aren’t having s-e-x in any way shape or form.

I have a cousin who follows her little 1 1/2 year old around like a HAWK. He has to eat a certain amount of food, he must put every toy back immediately after he is done in order to move onto the next one, he can only eat goldfish crackers ONE at a time, and he has a scheduled to the minute day – only so much time in the toy room – maybe 1/2 hour of TV if any at all….

Once my girls were playing in her parents yard & he was pressed against the window, watching longingly. When his uncle asked if he could take him outside, she said “No – there are mosquitoes out there.” So this sad little bubble boy watched as my kids ran amok in the yard, squealing with delight. Amazingly, they did not contract malaria.

Yes he is a perfect child.

And he will grow into a perfectly neurotic adult.

Poor thing.

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So funny and very true!

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you just don’t know how you made me feel good.

i dread my vacation in my parents-in-law’s place where i have to meet my sis-in-law and bro-in-law whose children should be well-behaved (be quite and be still) and should have flawless skin (no running around). i had to take in comments like “my children are not as active as your son” in a not-so-positive tone. i always had to vent my anger to my husband after. it’s his perfect family, after all:-)

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at last…someone that understands the MoPC's. awesome. recently i moved back home from a 'well to do' ISD. i was totally an outcast there! for i am loud, well spoken, sarcastic, and usually foul mouthed to boot. my almost 12 yr old (Big K) is an Aspie. and i got tired of all the comments, why is your child not playing with anyone, or the even better ones when they didnt realize she was mine…ohhh that poor lonely child over there tinkering. blah blah. eventually shirts are made, as i love to make sure my point gets across…and my daughter actually gets some of my sarcasm. fromt: i have autism back: you have cranial rectal inversion. lol needless to say we cant wear that one to school anymore! and i have had to use the IQ rant before. that one is always a great expression getter from the MoPC.

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Perfect mothers who think they have perfect children drive me crazy!

My SIL is a MoPC, and my MIL is always certain to point out how flawed my children are compared to hers. My MIL actually says, "Let's compare."

NO. Let's NOT compare.

I have a long, bitter (barely civil) history with these people regarding nasty comments against deaf children… specifically comments against my son when he was one.

But, have you run into any MoPC whose child(ren) is(are) over the age of 8? Then they continue with the "perfect mother" bit, but the "perfect child" portion seems to fall by the wayside.

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